Bedrest means something different for every woman, so be prepared to ask your healthcare provider a lot of questions. "Can I take a shower?" "Can I have sex?" "Can I walk around at all?" The answers will depend on your particular condition and how cautionary you need to be.

The following list can help you nail down the specifics:

• How long do you want me on bedrest?

• How should I change my general activity level?

• Can I work outside the home?  Can I work at home?

• How much walking can I do?

• How much standing can I do?

• Can I drive at all?

• Can I do any household chores?  Which ones?

• What about childcare?

• Can I lift anything?  Nothing larger / heavier than: __________

• Are there any exercises I can do while on bedrest?

• What level of sexual activity can I have?

• Can I move to the living room sofa during the day?

• What position should I rest in?

• Can I take a shower?

• Can I get up to use the toilet?